Book by retired teacher tells story of his, students' lives

Renewing the connection
By Lynn R. Parks


When Raymond E. Lloyd Jr. retired from teaching, he was at loose ends. He had spent over 20 years as an instructor at Delaware Technical and Community College, Georgetown, and he missed the daily contact with students.
"Before I retired, students were always coming up to me, telling me that I knew so many wild and crazy stories, I ought to write a book," said Lloyd, Seaford. "And one morning, I woke up and stared at the ceiling and said, 'I'll write a book!' Pretty soon, I had filled up six legal pads with stories."
Cases of the result, "Journey of Life," arrived at the Lloyd home last week. "I hope that my students who read my book get a sense of being back in the classroom with me," said Lloyd. And for those who did not have Lloyd as a teacher, "this book will really lift you up," he said. "It will tell you that life is important, that you should be good to yourself."
Lloyd describes his book as inspiration and motivation threaded together with stories
from his life and from the lives of his students. "The stories pull it all together and make it easier to read," he said.
The book is divided by topics into chapters: goals, self-esteem, coping, love, communication, relationships and behavior. It also contains a chapter about Lloyd himself, letters from several of his students and a segment that deals with retirement. "I miss all past experiences, more than anyone will ever know," he wrote. "But there are those times when every person has to face realities of life and move on with new beginnings, such as retirement."

Lloyd grew up in Seaford - his father, Raymond Sr., is deceased and his mother, Margaret M., lives in the Country Rest Home, Greenwood - and graduated from Seaford High School in 1948. He attended Pennington Prep School, Pennington, N.J., for a year then went to Wesley College, Dover, where he obtained an associate degree in 1951. He served in the Air Force from 1951 to 1955, during the Korean War, then went to Utah State University to study psychology and sociology. He received his bachelor's degree in 1958 and a master's in psychiatric social work from Rutgers University in 1960.
Upon graduating, he went to work at the Arthur Brisbane Child Treatment Center, a psychiatric hospital for children in New Jersey. He was there until 1968, when he became superintendent at Stevenson Detention Home, Milford.
In 1975, he was hired as a teacher at Del Tech. In the 21 years he was there, he was chairman of the human services technology department and taught courses in psychology, counseling and behavior. He was also an adjunct faculty member of the University of Delaware, Wilmington College and Delaware State University southern campuses. He and his wife Maggie have two children, Raymond III "Rip" and Connie Joseph, two grandchildren and five great-grandchildren. His brother, William, also lives in Seaford.
"A few years ago, I was teaching a course for Wilmington College entitled 'Philosophy of Love,' " Lloyd writes in his chapter on love, his favorite chapter of the book. "This was quite an experience for me. Just think, a 5-hour class one night a week for eight weeks, with me teaching about love. What an exciting experience."
In that chapter, Lloyd goes on to discuss the "Ah!!! Syndrome," the feeling a person gets when a loved one, looking especially nice, walks into the room. He also talks about the need to understand people whom we love, the parameters of a balanced relationship and his feelings for the approximately 20,000 students he had.
"This book is not about my journey," said Lloyd. "It is really about my students' journey. I dedicated it to my students." In fact, he said his main objective in writing the book was to reach out to former students.
"I am extremely satisfied with Journey," he added. "I read it once and laughed and read it the next time and cried. I want to get as many people as I can to read it and to be a part of my life. After reading it, you will feel good emotionally about yourself."