Thursday, January 21, 2010
The best approach to self esteem

By Dr. Anthony Policastro

I once had a home builder tell me that people create their own problems. His point was that he could have two different families with the same income. One would be comfortable. The other would be struggling. I heard a similar sentiment today from a radio announcer in reference to sports teams. There were those who planned well. There were those who did not. The result was either a good team or a bad team. We are all the product of our environment. How we spend money is not as genetically linked as many of the other things we do. Some people are clearly savers. Others are clearly spenders. Some of that may be genetic. However, much of that is learned behavior. In the past I have written about the parents and children who see name brand clothing as a necessity. The point I have made is that usually individuals who think that way have a problem with self esteem. They use the clothing as a way of making up for feeling poorly about themselves. The problem is that it might help them feel better about the way they look. However, it does nothing for their underlying self esteem. There are many other ways that people waste money trying to make themselves look more important than they really are. The crash of the housing market is a good example. Individuals bought houses that they could not afford. They were hoping that others would think more of them for having a big house. We have long known about the fact that automobiles are an extension of the individual. People frequently pay for more car and more accessories than they need. They pay more than they can really afford. Again the goal is to have someone else look at their car and think better of them for it. The latest example of this is the use of cell phones. Preadolescents use them to talk. They use them to text. The goal is to have one before anybody else. It provides instant self esteem. It also wastes money uselessly. It also may cause brain cancer. Parents may sometimes spend more money than is necessary buying things for their children. They feel it is a way of showing the children how much they care. Children learn that by how much attention the parents pay to them and not how big a gift they buy. We often have our priorities mixed up when it comes to spending money. We spend it for all the wrong reasons. We need to ask if we are doing it because we really need something. We need to ask if we are doing it because we really need something that good. The best approach to self esteem is encouraging success in an endeavor. It is about doing something well. It is not about appearances. Many of the great people in history had little in the way of possessions. They became great by giving of themselves. They are still looked upon as great. However, we do not often call someone great for spending more than they can afford. We call them foolish. That cannot have a good effect on their self esteem.

Stroke and Osteoporosis screening Residents living in and around the Seaford community can be screened to reduce their risk of having a stroke or bone fracture. The Mount Olivet United Methodist Church will host Life Line Screening on Jan. 28. The site is located at 315 High St. in Seaford. Appointments will begin at 9 a.m. Four key points every person needs to know: 1. Stroke is the third leading cause of death and a leading cause of permanent disability. 2. 80 percent of stroke victims had no apparent warning signs prior to their stroke 3. Preventive ultrasound screenings can help you avoid a stroke 4. Screenings are fast, non-invasive, painless, affordable and convenient Screenings identify potential cardiovascular conditions such as blocked arteries and irregular heart rhythm, abdominal aortic aneurysms, and hardening of the arteries in the legs, which is a strong predictor of heart disease. A bone density screening to assess osteoporosis risk is also offered and is appropriate for both men and women. Packages start at $139. All five screenings take 60-90 minutes to complete. For more information regarding the screenings or to schedule an appointment, call 1-877-237-1287 or visit our website at Pre-registration is required. Life Line Screening was established in 1993, and has since become the nation's was established in 1993, and has since become the nation's leading provider of preventive screenings.

Bayhealth Baby Fair Jan. 30 Bayhealth Medical Center's 14th Annual Baby Fair will be held on Saturday, Jan. 30, from 9 a.m. to 2 p.m., at Destiny Christian Church in Dover. With a theme of "The Skinny on Obesity and How it Affects Families," this year's fair will feature free presentations, crafts and activities for children, educational materials, vendors, giveaways, door prizes and light refreshments. This event is free to the public and pre-registration is not required. For more information, call Bayhealth Maternal-Child Educator Wendy Lovette, RN, LCCE, IBCLC, at 302-744-6229 or e-mail

Dr. Zorsky joins NMH Nanticoke Memorial Hospital welcomes Paul Zorsky, MD to its active medical staff. Dr. Zorsky joins Nanticoke Health Services as a specialist in Medical Oncology and Hematology and is accepting new patients. Paul Zorsky, MD, is board-certified in Internal Medicine, Hematology and Oncology by the American Board of Internal Medicine. He received his medical degree from the University of Connecticut and completed an internship in Internal Medicine at the George Washington University Medical Center in Washington, D.C. Dr. Zorsky served as chief medical resident at the George Washington University Medical Center, before completing a fellowship in Hematology and Oncology there. To reach his office, call 628-6334.

PRMC offers free CPR seminar In recognition of February being American Heart Month, the Guerrieri Heart & Vascular Institute at Peninsula Regional Medical Center is offering a free "CPR for Family and Friends" seminar on Tuesday, Feb. 9. The seminar is designed for anyone who wants to learn CPR rescue skills but does not require a CPR course completion card. It will teach rescuers how to perform CPR on adults and children and how to help an adult or child who is choking. The seminar will be conducted from 1 to 2:30 p.m. and 5 to 6:30 p.m. in the Auditorium of the Avery W. Hall Educational Center (corner of Waverly Drive and Locust Street) on the Peninsula Regional campus. Free parking is available in the lot across from the Educational Center or in the adjacent Parking Garage B. Pre-registration is required by calling 410-543-7226. Space is limited.

Bayhealth establishes Stroke Center In response to a recommendation of the American Heart Association/American Stroke Association, Bayhealth Medical Center will establish an official Stroke Center this winter. Bayhealth treats approximately 500 stroke patients a year at both Kent General and Milford Memorial Hospitals. Bayhealth hopes to improve patient outcomes, decrease mortality rates and shorten the length of hospital stay for patients. As an integral part of the Stroke Center, Bayhealth has collaborated with Kent County EMS so that the EMS will notify the Emergency Department they have a possible stroke patient before they arrive at the hospital.

Patients will be monitored up to six months after discharge from the hospital to assess their condition. For more information, call Dawn Fowler MSN, RN, PCCN, Stroke Center coordinator, at 302-744-6584.

Family Caregiver Training offered The Alzheimer's Association Delaware Valley Chapter sponsors The Family Caregiver Education Series four times a year in each of Delaware's three counties. Methodist Manor House at 1001 Middleford Road in Seaford will host the free training session on Friday, Jan. 29, from 8:30 a.m. to 4:30 p.m. This program includes a medical overview, legal and financial issues, challenging symptoms, daily care issues and information on getting the help you need. Lunch will be provided by Methodist Manor House, therefore pre-registration is required by Friday, Jan. 22. For more information or to register, call Jamie Magee at 854-9788.

PRMC offers free screenings The Guerrieri Heart & Vascular Institute at Peninsula Regional Medical Center will be offering free blood pressure screenings during American Heart Month in February. The free blood pressure screenings will be held every Monday in February (1, 8, 15 and 22) from 10 a.m. to noon in both the Guerrieri Heart & Vascular Institute lobby and the Frank B. Hanna Outpatient Center lobby on the Peninsula Regional campus. There is no need to make an appointment. Free parking is available in the lot on East Carroll Street (for screenings in the Guerrieri Heart & Vascular Institute lobby) and in Garage B (for screenings in the Frank B. Hanna Outpatient Center lobby). For more information, call the Guerrieri Heart & Vascular Institute at 410-543-7123.

Health Fair is Feb. 1 Bayhealth Medical Center - Milford Memorial Hospital will host a Milford Community Forum & Health Fair on Monday, Feb. 1, from 5 to 8 p.m., at the Carlisle Fire Company in Milford. The event is free and open to the public. This special event will include free health screenings, informational displays on Bayhealth programs and services, and the opportunity to interact with Bayhealth leaders, employees and physicians. Bayhealth's leaders will speak about Bayhealth's focus on Milford Memorial Hospital, including new physician recruitment, ongoing improvements and renovations, recent awards and recognition, new services and future plans. In the event of inclement weather, the event will be held on Wednesday, Feb. 10 at the same time and location. For more information, call 430-5978.

Cancer support group The Wellness Community-Delaware offers a free general cancer support group for people affected by cancer and their loved ones at Nanticoke Memorial Hospital in Seaford. The monthly support group meets in the second floor conference room of the Cancer Care Center on the third Monday of each month from 4:30 to 6 p.m. Due to the Martin Luther King Jr. holiday, the next meeting takes place on Monday, Jan. 25 at 4:30 p.m. The Wellness Community is dedicated to helping people affected by cancer enhance their health and well-being through participation in a professional program of emotional support and hope. All facilitators of these groups are trained mental health professionals. Call 645-9150 for information or to register. For more information about The Wellness Community, visit

Annual women's conference The fifth annual "Women Supporting Women Through Opportunity Conference" will begin Friday, March 26, and last through Sunday, March 28, with an array of activities including eight workshops, door prizes, food, fellowship and lots of fun and learning opportunities. The annual conference, planned by friends of the "GeeYou Will Project," a formal wear lending library and women and girls mentoring project serving those in need of these services throughout Delaware, will be held at Redden Lodge, near Georgetown. This celebratory fifth annual conference will begin with the "Eat Dessert First" reception and an evening of activities and dedications. As one of the special features of this year's conference, the Young Women's Drumming Empowerment Project (YWDEP), a Washington, D.C. area group lead by Kristin Arant will join the group on Friday evening. The YWDEP performance is sponsored by Lynne Betts of "MichaeLynne Peace Products" of Seaford. On Saturday a variety of workshop topics are planned including belly dancing; a woman's forum, homespun health; and meditation. On Sunday there will be a non-denominational "Celebration Ceremony" followed by a morning of crafting and other activities before a "Leftovers Buffet" and family reception in the afternoon. Cost of the conference is $50 which includes food, supplies, facilities and lodging (if desired) on a first come, first served basis. The conference is open to 55 women, ages 18-80 and beyond and workshop assignments are made based on registration dates. For more information, or if you or someone you know is interested in becoming a sponsor of the Conference or the "GeeYou Will Project," call Rosemary Joseph-Kappel at 302-242-0032 or e-mail

Man to Man support group Nanticoke Memorial Hospital offers a Man to Man support group meeting on the fourth Wednesday of each month. Man to Man helps men cope with prostate cancer by receiving information and peer support. Pre-registration is not required for this free support group. For more information, contact Larry Skala (337-3678) or Grafton Adams (628-8311).

Depression Support Group There is a free bimonthly Depression Support Group meeting in Laurel on the second and fourth Wednesday evenings from 7 to 8:30 p.m. Any person who has signs and symptoms of depression and is under the care of a professional counselor/MD is welcome to attend. To register, call 302-465-6612.

Breast cancer support group Delaware Breast Cancer Coalition, Inc. (DBCC) has expanded its Beginning Your Pink Ribbon Journey, a program for women newly-diagnosed with breast cancer, by partnering with Nanticoke Memorial Hospital Cancer Center in Seaford. The free, monthly program is offered at the Cancer Center located at 801 Middleford Road, Seaford, the third Thursday of each month from 3 to 4 p.m. To learn more about Beginning Your Pink Ribbon Journey at Nanticoke Memorial Hospital Cancer Center, call Lois Wilkinson at 672-6435. Registration is required and light refreshments and small gifts are provided.

Monthly support group Compassionate Care Hospice, The Wellness Community-DE and Nanticoke Memorial Hospital will collaborate to present a monthly bereavement group, The Next Step. The group focuses on issues of loss that continue beyond the early stages of grief. Mary Van House, bereavement coordinator, will facilitate the group at 10 a.m. on the third Tuesday of each month, at the Nanticoke Cancer Care Center, second floor conference room. To register, call Lisa at 629-6611, ext. 2378.